Mortgages and Tinder

Tracy Head • March 10, 2023
What do the two have to do with each other? This week I learned a new term – Tinder Swindler...


This comes from a Netflix movie about a fellow in Europe who duped numerous women out of money by borrowing funds with promises to repay them. This is a con that has been around forever in different forms but the increased prominence of online dating has really extended the hunting grounds for people that are looking for their next mark. In the olden days (like when I was young) this scam looked more like a wealthy older man being taken advantage of by a much younger woman. This was the stereotype in any case. This profile has now changed and the swindlers come in many different forms and of all ages. Although what follows is going to feel like I’m hammering one gender over the other, believe me the con comes from both genders. My hunch is that when men have fallen prey to these scams pride prevents them from disclosing.


Over the last few weeks years I have worked with three different women who have been conned out of thousands of dollars by men they met through online dating portals. In all three cases these are strong, independent women who work hard and have always taken care of business. All three own their own homes and have great jobs and clean credit. The game starts easily enough. They each met someone who seemed like a great partner. He was charming, caring, and seemed to have his act together. One case started with a request to borrow cash as the partner was in a bit of a jam. Then, in all three cases, for one reason or another the new partner couldn’t seem to hold down a job. In one case the partner was starting a new business and just needed some cash to get things off the ground. In one case the new partner used her computer to apply for additional credit and intercepted the mail before she knew she had new cards coming. It goes without saying that in all three cases the women are left holding the bag with no hope of recovering any of the money they are owed.


For two of these women we were able to refinance their homes to consolidate all of their debts, but for

the third she found herself in the horribly difficult position of having to sell her home. After three years

of hard work she was able to buy a home again but this was definitely a huge hit to her retirement plans.

Before you are tempted to judge these women for allowing themselves to be victimized, understand

that none of the three are stupid women. They were trusting to a fault, and never thought for a minute

that their partner was anything other than the front that they saw. This is intended as a cautionary tale. If you are early on in a relationship and your new partner is looking to borrow money or asking for you to apply for credit on their behalf, open your eyes.


Trust your gut. Question why they are in the situation they are in. Get the details. Don’t be afraid of difficult conversations to get to the truth. Life happens to us all, and sometimes things are as they seem. However, if you are in a relatively new relationship and your partner is looking for money … think long and hard. It’s a slippery slope. One woman said to me “In for a penny, in for a pound. I kept hoping things would turn around and if I held out he would pay me back. In fact it just cost me more money.”

If you find yourself in this situation, I urge you to make a move and get help sooner rather than later. There are often options you are not aware of so you need to make changes as soon as possible so your credit and financial situation are not compromised.


On a different note, if you own a home you should have received mail from the provincial government asking you to complete a declaration regarding the Speculation Tax. Make sure you take care of it before the March 31 2023 deadline or you may receive a tax bill of up to two per cent of the value of your home.

Tracy Head

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Mitigating Mortgage Moments

By Tracy Head • February 7, 2025
This week I had a panicked call from a realtor I work with on a regular basis. One of her sellers had a sale that looked like it was going to collapse. He was counting on the sale of that home for the down payment of his next home. She called mid-day Wednesday. The sale was supposed to complete on Friday. She asked if I could talk to the purchaser and potentially arrange financing for her. Before you read the next part, this is not intended to single out any particular bank or mortgage person. It could just as easily be a mortgage broker or a branch employee. The back story is that the purchaser had been working with a mortgage specialist from one of the chartered banks since mid-December. The specialist gave the client the go-ahead to remove her financing subject January 17th. The specialist then said they needed to extend the closing date by a week. Then by another week. Then she told the client she would have to come up with twenty per cent for her down payment. The client scrambled and came up with the additional money needed for her financing to be approved. I might not have believed this story except I did see the email chain. So what actually happened? My guess is that the mortgage specialist did not have an approval in place with the insurer or her bank when she gave the client the ok to remove her financing. The client had not seen nor signed any mortgage paperwork before removing her financing subject; she was trusting that her mortgage person had things well in hand being as she was told she was approved and things were fine. The buyer in this case is a first-time home buyer and did not know any different. I have pulled off the odd miracle in my days but I had serious doubts about being able to help this client in one day, especially being as she was buying in a smaller remote community so we had fewer options. We were working on her application and 6:00 pm Wednesday evening had word that the bank she was originally working with had come through and would be sending mortgage instructions to the lawyer the following morning (we are now at the day prior to closing). When you are purchasing a home and applying for mortgage financing, I feel it is so important to work with a team of professionals that have your back. As someone who has never bought a home before or maybe hasn’t done so in many years its important to do your homework and understand the process. If you think things are going sideways with your financing please make sure you ask questions to better understand what’s happening. If you have a feeling that something is really wrong, don’t wait until you have no other options. When you choose a mortgage professional to work with (and realtor for that matter) do a bit of homework. Ask your friends who they have used and what their experience was like.  Buying a home is stressful enough on a good day, but what this poor client has been through could have been avoided had she had a better idea of what the home-buying process was supposed to look like.

Private Lenders

By Tracy Head • January 24, 2025
The easy fix isn’t always the right fix. I’ve been wondering how long it would take to see the fallout as clients who have been paying really low interest rates come up for renewal. We have all experienced a steep increase in the cost of living. Even though rates now are sitting where most clients qualified with the stress test when they originally got their mortgages, for many people life has happened in the meantime. What do I mean by that? Often clients are having to push right to the top of what they qualify for just to get into the housing market. As we are going through the mortgage approval process we talk about keeping big consumer purchases (financing a car or furniture as an example) to a minimum as additional loan payments reduce borrowing power. Once clients are into a home life does indeed happen. The older car dies and a new car is necessary. Little ones come along and that can affect family income and add a daycare bill to the bottom line. Property taxes increase. Grocery prices skyrocket. You know the list. Balances start creeping up on credit cards or lines of credit. There are lots of different mortgage products to help with consolidation of debt. Lately the challenge has been that even if clients have significant equity in their homes with the increased interest rates they may not qualify with traditional lenders. Alternative lenders and private lenders come into play as options in this case. I’ll leave the alternative lenders to another day because I have a cautionary tale about private lenders. Not all private lenders are created equal. I have several that I work with when my clients need a solution in the private world. There is a time and a place where a private mortgage is the ideal fit. As long as you have an exit strategy (a plan as to how it will be paid out in a relatively short time frame ie: one year) this can be a great option for clients. Then there is the private lender that hurts my heart. Heavy catchy marketing bombards us from multiple venues. Their jingle is running through my head as I write this. For them the bottom line is that if you have adequate equity in your home you are approved. Cool. That fixes the immediate problem. However, more times than I like to think about, this lender creates far bigger problems for people. Despite the fact that you have equity in your home you still have to make the payments on these private mortgages. Interest rates are usually around the 14% mark so payments are high and you are not making any headway with paying down the mortgage. If there is no significant increase in your income you struggle and find yourself in a financial bind again. They set up another mortgage with an even higher rate. When you sign on for a private mortgage your are responsible for covering your legal fees, the lender’s legal fees, and there is also a lender fee that is included. Even a small private mortgage can end up costing almost $10,000 to put in place. If you couldn’t cover expenses with your first mortgage (at reasonable rates) guess what happens when you start adding in more and bigger payments on top of your normal expenses? For most people the only out at this point is selling their home. That is a very hard conversation for me to have with clients, especially when they’ve been in their home for many years. If you are finding that there is more month than money, sitting down and reviewing your expenses is the first step to take. Are there any areas that you are able to cut back? Do you have any options for increasing your income?  If the answer is no, talking to a mortgage professional sooner rather than later may help identify some options before you end up in a never-ending cycle of sleepless nights and missed payments.
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